Blessence Maternity’s ‘Adoption is the new pregnant’ tee touches a nerve with CBB Readers

Blessence Maternity’s ‘Adoption is the new pregnant’ tee touches a nerve with CBB Readers

Okay, so here is a little background on the t-shirt, “Adoption is the New Pregnant.”

As for me, I think the t-shirt is insensitive. It makes light of a matter that is quite serious in most cases. And like someone else said (in the link), it comes across as making adoption “trendy.” It’s propaganda and marketing, someone finding another way to make money off of adoption (or babies). It does not take into account all the millions of birthparents and adoptees who may see this shirt while walking around in Walmart. For some of us, it would be like a kick in the gut, even if we have a good open adoption relationship. 

On the other hand, if adoption is no biggie, then why doesn’t every woman who is able to conceive (married or not) offer her offspring to the next available couple in line. Like the shirt says, Adoption is the New Pregnant. Any takers?

Oh wait, I forgot, it’s only “okay” to give away your baby if you’re poor, too young, not married, was raped, had an affair, used drugs, are a prostitute. Is that about right?

What I Learned Undercover at a Crisis Pregnancy Center

What I Learned Undercover at a Crisis Pregnancy Center

“I think we can all agree that it is wrong to shame someone seeking guidance. It is wrong to lie to someone in order to manipulate her future. It is wrong to treat women like walking wombs. Yet these tactics are core to the mission of Virginia’s crisis pregnancy centers. They advertise to scared women who need help, and they claim to offer unbiased information, guidance, and support to those who need it. But instead CPCs treat women the way they treated me — like disobedient children who need to be schooled in religion and saved from their own decisions. To them a woman is a vessel for a future baby, nothing more.”

‘I couldn’t give my baby away… they only wanted a toy’: Surrogate mother fought legal battle after learning that would-be parents were violent Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1356176/Surrogate-mother-wins-case-baby-giving-birth.html#ixzz35OKff5CM Follow us: @MailOnline on Twitter | DailyMail on Facebook

‘I couldn’t give my baby away… they only wanted a toy’: Surrogate mother fought legal battle after learning that would-be parents were violent Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1356176/Surrogate-mother-wins-case-baby-giving-birth.html#ixzz35OKff5CM Follow us: @MailOnline on Twitter | DailyMail on Facebook

“Miss N said: ‘I wanted to help this couple to have a child, and I thought it would be a wonderful thing to be able to do.

‘But as I got to know them I found they had told me lie after lie, which made me doubt what I was doing.

‘I didn’t mean to hurt anyone, and I’m sorry it has ended this way, but I couldn’t give them my baby. I had to do what was best for her. Now I think that she [Mrs W] only really wanted my baby as a toy. She needed something to occupy herself as she didn’t work and her husband was never there.”

The Lost Children: An Adoptee’s Story

The Lost Children: An Adoptee’s Story

“There is something about having a child and getting older that stirs up a lot of old feelings. As I said before, I have spent different amounts of time and energy thinking about being adopted, depending on my age. Sometimes, I am able to put it on the back burner, and other times, not so much.”

Conceived from Rape: Miss Pennsylvanias Story Through a Social Work Lens

Conceived from Rape: Miss Pennsylvanias Story Through a Social Work Lens

“Gatto claims her mother would have placed her for adoption had her family not intervened and offered her support.  Here’s another bias that needs to be checked: adoption is not inevitable.  Whether in Pro-Life or Pro-Choice circles, or debates between, rape conception is persistently spoken of as though there are only two choices: adoption or abortion.  The bias that individuals conceived from rape can’t be loved by their families–that adoption is a way of getting rid of presumably  unwanted children–narrows choices women have to make about pregnancy and parenting.  Whether abortion, adoption, or parenting, survivors of rape are entitled to self-determination and support for their decision.”

Meaningful vs. Meaningless Apologies

Meaningful vs. Meaningless Apologies

I thought this was a very insightful post.

 

“A meaningful apology, on the other hand, is primarily concerned with righting the wrong that was done. Someone who gives a meaningful apology makes it crystal clear that the feelings of the victim are her top priority. By apologizing, she is not trying to make herself look good, or to benefit herself in any other way. She is humble, truly remorseful and willing to do whatever is needed to make amends. She understands and accepts that her apology may not restore the relationship, but she is not doing it to accomplish her own purposes or to fulfill her own needs, wishes, or desires. She is doing it to help the victim heal emotionally, mentally, and spiritually from the damage and pain she inflicted with her abuse, betrayal, or offensive behavior or words.”

Scapegoating

Scapegoating

“Scapegoating is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one member of the family or a social group being blamed for small things, picked on and constantly put down. In scapegoating, one of the authority figures has made a decision that somebody in the family has to be the bad guy. The mother or father makes one child bad and then looks for things (sometimes real, but most often imagined) that are wrong.”

Ask the Doctor-Answers to Your Parenting Questions

Ask the Doctor-Answers to Your Parenting Questions

“My 12 yr old and her step father can’t seem to get along. My husband will consistently criticize my daughter, keep telling me that she will not do well in school, will do drugs, get pregnant and drop out of school. She has a 76% grade average.  She has promised me that she will work harder to bring up her marks in school. I have been seeing how hard she’s trying lately, but my husband doesn’t see it.”